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(Gurugram) “I am currently working at Internshala and I am managing an initiative focussed on internships for women who are restarting their career. We are trying to help women who had a break in their career, or who have not yet got a chance to start their career after graduation. Now, the question is “Why an internship?” and “Why not a job upfront?”. There are various reasons why women often hesitate to go back to the work force after a break. It could be that they lack industry relevant skills or may lack confidence. Internships provide flexible working options like work from home or part-time work. Also, an internship is a short-term engagement with a company. The women can go and work for a company for a couple of months and realise for themselves whether they are able to balance work and family.

The idea came around last year during a discussion with my mentor. At first, I couldn’t really relate to the idea because we had always focussed on providing internships to currently enrolled students. Later, I researched and had the chance to speak to many women who had quit their jobs because of marriage or maternity. It was then that I felt emotionally connected with this initiative. I got an opportunity to hear straight from horse’s mouth, the troubles these women were facing. 

For instance, I called up a certain lady as part of a survey. After asking few preliminary questions, I asked her if she was currently working, and she said, “No”. I asked “Do you want to work?”. Her response was that she needed to ask her husband. Later, she shared her story about how she had graduated couple of years back, and she had gotten married. Now, while she is very willing to work, her husband doesn’t allow her to do so and wants that she should take care of the family. Instances like these really trigger something inside me. Work-life is not just about career or earning money or independence, it is more about feeling good about yourself. Out of the 80 women that I called as a part of the survey, the majority of women said they would be ready to work on anything in any area.

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I was born and brought up in Bhopal. My parents have always emphasised that career is very important and that I should do whatever I feel is right for me. They guide me but they have never imposed their ideas on me. I personally feel very blessed with the people that I have around. I often encounter emotional turbulence in my life due to one reason or another. It is very fortunate that there are people who are there to boost my confidence and motivate me to not give up.”     

 

(Stories from Internshala: https://internshala.com)

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(Gurugram) “I lost my dad when I was 12 years old. My dad suffered from brain tumor. He was on bed rest for the last four years of his life and my mother took care of him. For four years, my mother’s life totally changed and revolved just around my dad. She had to send my brother away to my grandparents home where he could get better care. It was the toughest part of her life. My dad passed away in 2007, and as a result my mom suffered severe depression and she had to get help. The psychiatrist told my mother that if she did not move from the house where we were living, then she won’t recover. So that’s when my mother and I moved to Ajmer to my grandparents place. It was the hardest part of my life as well because I had recently lost a parent and my mother was regularly having epileptic fits. Every morning I used to get up with fear that when I would come back from school, I would hear that, “Your mother is no more”. I fought with that fear for quite a long time. I never cried in front of my mother because her condition was bad and I was her support system.

I remember the last time my dad spoke to me. I was studying and my back was towards him. He asked me “Are you studying?” and I said, “Yes” and then he responded “Study well”. I had no clue what he was going through. Everyone in the family knew that he was at his last stage but I didn’t know. It was my exam time and my only response was “OK, Dad”. I didn’t even turn around. Those were the last words I heard from him. A few days later he passed away. I feel bad sometimes but then that’s part of life.                         

Prior to my father’s illness, my mother was a very bubbly and warm person and she loved meeting people and talking all the time but during her depression, she went into a shell and stopped talking. She feared going to market places or any crowded areas. She is still on medications, even after 11 years. Then we faced another loss when my grandfather (my mother’s father) died. It was another jolt for her. She had lost her two pillars. I live in a joint family so every one of us supported her. 

My mother had a good academic record and she used to be the school captain. She was very ambitious and had always dreamt of doing something good for the society. With the help of my family, my mother started an NGO, Shri Vishwa Karma Mahila Udyog. It is an entirely women run organisation that provides financial assistance to women. Currently, there are about 10-12 women who are trained in creating handicrafts and tailoring which helps them live a better life. Since this is an NGO, she doesn’t earn any profit out of it but there is happiness on her face now. Her work is being recognised, and now she goes to markets, meets new people, develops relationship with them.

She is a strong woman and now a member of government committee that approves installation of sonographic machines in hospitals. I feel very proud of her struggles and successes and I share her story with everyone.

Mental health is an issue which is not well understood in our society. Some people used to say that my mother may be faking it. She used to cry all of a sudden and or her hands used to go numb. Sometimes we even had to make emergency visits to doctors. She was unable to control her emotions and she still can’t deal with news related to death. She is taking medications for her depression and yet people don’t understand. 

 

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I am very bubbly and ambitious person. I travelled to Delhi three years back. I always wanted to study in one of the top institutions in the country. The first two years in Delhi were life changing because I had always been the pampered child at home and lived in the bubble of a small city. In Delhi, I counted every little thing as an achievement, for example, crossing the big road by myself for the first time, swiping up my first ATM card, traveling in a subway metro all by myself. I volunteered for an organisation where I headed a project for child and women empowerment. I went to various government schools and gave presentation on “good touch” and “bad touch” and covered around 9-10 schools. I trained other volunteers and juniors to give this presentation and how to make it more interactive.

Currently, I am living my dream. I am the International Student Community Manager at Internshala.”      

(Find out more about Internshala here: https://internshala.com)

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(Patna) “I was born and brought up in Kerala. While I was studying in class 9th or 10th, I heard and read that there was a lot of poverty in Bihar. Where I was born, I never saw that extent of poverty. People in Kerala would have a house and some land provided by the government. The stories of poverty from Bihar disturbed me a lot. So, when I finished high school, I joined an organization and decided to go to Bihar. 

Initially, my family did not support my decision to move to Bihar as I was the eldest child. My father said, “Study as much as you want. We won’t ever say no. Why do you need to go?” Only my grandfather told everyone, “If she wants to go, let her go! If she doesn’t like it, then she can come back.” It was a very tough decision for my family to send me so far away but I had decided to go. 

I came to Bihar in 1965. I did not start working immediately because I had many limitations. I did not know the language and everything was new to me including the culture, the food and the climate. After finishing my studies I started teaching in a girls’ school where the students came from affluent families. But I knew that I haven’t travelled so far to teach children from affluent families.  

Finally, one school gave me an opportunity to do social work and I was sent to a colony where only leprosy patients lived. A lot of people did not have fingers and they had a lot of wounds. The work was difficult in the beginning but I adjusted and they became close friends. I worked with them for 2-3 years. I felt that I was equipped to handle any situation. Gradually, I moved to the rural areas. Without telling anyone, I looked for the most needy as I had decided in my heart to work for them. These people were very simple and their life was very limited. They didn’t have anything that they could call their own. I decided I must struggle with these people. 

People from the Musahar (a section of Dalit) caste used to make alcohol and sold it from their own homes. People from all castes turned up to drink and after drinking they would sexually harass and sometimes rape women. While these people practiced untouchability in every aspect of life but not while drinking or committing sexual violence. At other times, the men would be disgusted by the same women and say, “You are a Musahar, stay inside your house!” or “How dare you come here? Leave!” But there was no untouchability while drinking and committing rape. I explained to the women in the community what rape was. They had no idea that rape was a crime. It had become such a part of their lives. They wouldn’t complain, because if they did, then the next day the customers would not come to drink. I had to tell them, “What if it happens to your daughter tomorrow? Yesterday it happened to you, tomorrow it will happen to her! If you remain a victim and don’t raise your voice then there will be no respect for you.” Finally, they got ready to file a case. So, I took up my first rape case in 1988 and went to the police station to lodge a complaint. But the police said, “Madam, how will we take up this case? She is wearing such dirty clothes! Would any man want to rape her? You tell me!” Then I told him, “Sir, we are not crazy to come here early in the morning and wait for three hours. If you don’t want to register our case then give it to us in writing.” They registered our case, when they realised that we wouldn’t leave until they lodged our complaint. We had to struggle a lot to get the accused arrested.  After filing the case, the entire family of the accused came to threaten me and the other women to take back the case. It was a real challenge dealing with threats all the time. 

Somehow, I managed to keep the women together. The women from the villages supported me a lot. In a year and a half, nine rape cases were registered. We had to block roads or surround the police station, staged dharnas, and fight with the senior police officials to get the accused arrested. I asked the women to stand up for each other. The police understood that if we took up a case, we wouldn’t let it go and they would have to take immediate action. 

We put every single one of the accused in jail for a minimum two to three years. But these incidents are becoming too common. There is dereliction of duty and negligence. Until the police have too much pressure on them, they will not do anything about a case. Even the public is now getting desensitized. No, it is not normal! It is an exception! Why must this happen to girls? If the administration is agile then people will have some fear before committing such crimes.

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We also wanted to focus on the education of minor girls. In a typical hut in a Musahar colony, they are breeding pigs in one corner while another corner is used to make alcohol. In the third corner they sleep and use the fourth corner for rest of the work. How are the children in these households going to study? So, I decided to provide a residential school for the girls. In 2005, we got a piece of land and started hostels the next year. Now there are 150 girls here in Danapur and 100 in the hostel in Gaya.

In the villages, the young girls were limited to cooking, feeding the animals and doing the dishes. Young girls, around 11-12 years old, would leave home at 10 am to pick up sticks and wood for their mud stove. Once they had collected a bundle of sticks, they would sit and gossip or sleep under a tree or pluck fruits from trees and eat them. Finally, they would go back home by 5 pm and cook food again. They had either never been to school or were early drop outs. I used to ask them to sit with me for an hour and study. But the girls would ask why should they study when they are just going to get married. When I spoke to their mothers, they said the same thing, “What’s the use of studying? They have to get married and they need to do the household chores” I would request them, “Sister, send them for one hour only and there will still be plenty of time to do chores”. In the beginning we did very little reading and writing but there was a lot of singing, dancing and games and poetry. Gradually, the girls started liking it. 

Around the same time, UNICEF began noticing our work and supported us in opening more centres. We started Kishori Kendra with UNICEF. Within 6 months of opening the first centre, I had 15 more centres and within a year grew to 50 centres. The parents realized that the kids were learning something and they started talking about it. They organised parades, sang and shouted slogans and all of this created a different environment in the entire Panchayat. We started with girls, but the mothers’ committee demanded that we take in boys too; otherwise at the time of marriage, the boys would be uneducated and the girls would be well-read. So, we started taking in boys as well.

At least 40 students live in each of our centres. I want to show our centre to all the government school officials. If our centre can function so well, then why can’t government schools? I feel very proud that so many children come to learn with us. We can’t provide them with mid-day meals as we do not have that kind of funding. But we give them a small snack like bhunja (parched grain) or boiled egg. When we started giving the snacks, the student attendance became very regular. We feel sad that a child is ready to go through four hours of waiting and studying for a tiny snack. It shows how desperate they are for food. It is not even nutritious food but simply a light snack. 

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We have programs for all ages. Many young children from the Musahar community do not get a place in the regular anganvaadi’s. We have Anand Shiksha programme that cares for these young children. We give them a clean, healthy and hygienic environment. We also have around 300 youth at our various centres. Boys who drank and played poker all day are now in our cricket team. Through cricket they started their careers, some focused on education, or in some other performing arts like dance or stunts; some started a small business. 

The medals and other achievements that they have received are a symbol of our students abilities. We want the ones good at sports to be able to join a sports academy. Sports persons have a 4% quota; we want them to benefit from this. If the Musahar community have such an environment and opportunity, they will also move forward in life. But, unfortunately, even as of today, their first task is to put food on the table.

The government promised them land but it hasn’t fulfilled its promises. The youth are studying but the education doesn’t get them even a small job. They don’t have any land or any money? If they work for an entire day they can only manage to buy their meals. Wherever I go, I ask people what their wages are. Yesterday, in a village, they told me that they get one bag of pulses after carrying 18 bags of it throughout the day.

We need a government and people in power who make schemes for these people to be sensitive to their needs. This will not happen if they sit in an air-conditioned room in Delhi! It cannot be done by just sitting in Parliament. They have to see the ground realities. Today, some of the women are working in agriculture. Some are working in poultry, food processing, and some have started a kitchen garden. About 150-200 women now work in the poultry. In a way, I feel a few NGOs are doing the work of the government. That is why this nation is still intact.

There is always an event on International Women’s Day which is attended by hundreds of women. On one such occasion, women that worked in food processing area and kitchen gardens set up stalls for other women to see and learn what the women in Naari Gunjan are doing. This is how we built trust and expanded work on other blocks too. We work on food processing and agriculture as well. This creates a belief that the Naari Gunjan works for them. I also share with them my experiences. 

It is necessary to spread the thought that if you live, you live not for yourself but for others. Have some space in your heart and soul for other people. Give them an opportunity and show them the way to move forward. I have also heard from many people that if everybody starts studying then who will farm? Who will work in agriculture and take care of the cattle? There are some people who think like that and feel status quo is ok. They want to let others be at the bottom because it benefits them. This sort of attitude is very negative and it is necessary to change it.”

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(New Delhi) “I am an Assistant Professor at Delhi University. I am from the Rewari District in Haryana. We are four siblings, three sisters and a brother and my father has always supported my sisters and me more than he has supported his son. 

Initially, we used to live in a joint family. My grandparents, my two uncles and their families and my family all lived under the same roof. After my grandfather passed away, my grandmother became the head of the family. My father was in the Air Force. When he wanted to take us to the place of his posting, my grandmother and other relatives allowed only my brother to go along with my parents so that he could have a good education. But my father wanted to take his daughters as well. Everyone objected and said he will not be able to afford it because my father was giving half of his salary to the joint household. Finally, they agreed to let us go with our parents on the condition that my father will continue to send half of his salary. He agreed and kept his promise. Whenever my family and all the relatives meet during weddings or other social gatherings, they still talk about it. It was a big step that he took for us three sisters. 

All of us had a good education and pursued our own areas of interest. My father never objected to anything. I went alone for all my job interviews including those that were out of town. There was a time when some people told my father, “How could you allow a girl to go to other cities on her own?” When my younger sister got a promotion, she had to move to Hyderabad. Everyone in the family again questioned my father, “How could you allow an unmarried daughter to live alone in another city?”. But my father never objected; on the contrary he told my sister, “Of course, you should go”. 

My eldest sister was the first girl from our village to study B.Sc. I completed my M.A., M.Phil. and Ph.D. and soon, cleared my NET and other exams without any break. My father is very proud of all of us, especially, his daughters. My father is my role model, in terms of discipline and hard work.

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I still remember my first job interview in Delhi where the interviewer said, “Oh, are you from the OBC Category? But this seat is for the General Category”. The interview was for the General Category population, so the people from OBC category were not even entertained. I wanted to introduce the OBC Cell in the college to spread awareness that 27% of reservation that we get is our right but we can compete in general category too. 

We are getting 27% reservation because our community has been suppressed for thousands of years. We make up 60-70% of the population but make up only 7-8% of the work force. The discrimination still exists. The general category forms 20% of the population but they have 80% of jobs. So who’s getting the reservation? We have to change the angle of looking at things. The people from general category even say that, “You people never wanted to study”. Everyone should change their perspective and think whether we have never wanted to study or education was denied to us. It reminds me of an old incident I still remember. I was in the 12th standard and the reservation policy had just been introduced. Everyone in the class was discussing whether the reservation should be given or not. One of my classmates said, “These people from the backward classes, these Yadavs, they get the reservation and they are easily going to get through jobs and colleges.” I was like “Oh my God, so I’m from the backward class” I was not even aware at that time that I was from the Other Backward Classes. On top of it, I was the only Yadav in my class. I went back home, and asked my father, “Are we from the backward class?” Later, I realised there were other Yadavs in the class but they did not use their surnames. You shouldn’t feel shy of where you come from.

I think acquiring knowledge is very important. The only reason that the so-called general category people can criticize us is that they believe we are not hardworking and we reached a position only because of our class, and not because of our caliber or knowledge. You should work hard, gain knowledge and you should know about your rights. So when someone criticizes you, you can reply based on your knowledge.

I know a lot of people who use this line, “Oh, it will sound politically very incorrect but it’s very easy for the reserved category people to enter into any kind of a job”. They always use this tagline, “It might be politically incorrect”. It’s the sweet poison that they give you. It means that they don’t want to ruffle your feathers, but they still want to make you feel uncomfortable.”

Watch more on impact of caste system on women in India here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PV_OL5XMWpE

 

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(Patna) “I am a practicing lawyer at Patna High Court. I deal with all kinds of cases including in the development sector. I take up pro bono cases for NGOs. In the past, I have filed cases on implementation of labour laws in Bihar. I have also worked on cases related to child marriages, right to education and trained officials and activists on laws related to domestic violence and child abuse.

I was 18 years old when my mother passed away. I was married within four months of my mother’s death. My husband was still a medical student and so I had to stay in a village with my in-laws with no options to be employed anywhere. I was not professionally qualified but I finished my graduation after marriage. 

At the age of 19, I moved from a life of going to college, reading books and watching Oscars and Grammy’s to a life of cooking food all day on a mud stove in a remote village. My mother-in-law would get angry at me because I used to be in the kitchen all day, and yet, the food was not being cooked on time. Sometimes, I felt low because all my dreams seemed to disappear. Growing up, I wanted to be a commercial pilot and pursue higher studies in the USA. Nobody knew that I was also a regular teenager with aspirations. It was a very tough time for me but I never complained because I had no other option. I continued reading a lot of books especially literature. Through the books, I was living so many characters, and nothing in life could surprise me. If something doesn’t work out the way I want then I find a reason to move on.

I continued to hope that one day I would become a writer. I was into literature since my childhood and that interest didn’t diminish. For the next 15 years, I was a housewife and many times introducing myself as a housewife seemed disheartening. But I loved my children so much that I didn’t mind. I introduced them to a lot of books and told them stories. 

I shifted to Patna for my children’s education and that was when I took up law. When I entered the court for the first time, it seemed like I am back to school again. I loved every moment of it. It was a profession that was cut out for me. Today when I look back, I think that we should not feel battered by the hard times. You must give life a chance and it will show you beautiful things.

When I started practicing in the Patna High Court, I didn’t face any gender bias; people saw me as a very confident woman. But there is a lot of caste bias and caste lobbies here. Since I was raised in an army cantonment, I had not seen any kind of caste discrimination. So, it came as a shock for me when I was denied the membership of Barrister Association because of my caste. 

There is a Barrister Association at Patna High Court in which 95% people are from the “Upper Caste”. The Vice-President of the Association told me that I could not be a member because I belonged to a “Backward Caste”. I felt hurt and was disturbed for months and I thought if I was facing this kind of discrimination on the basis of caste, then what about people who are coming from villages to practice here. Then I decided I will make sure that people do not face harassment on the basis of caste. At that time, I reached out to many Dalit victims and organisations working for them. We have special laws, courts and public prosecutors for Dalits, but the conviction rate is zero because the whole system isn’t active. So, in spite of having laws, people do not get any benefit.

Right now, I am trying to file a PIL to make sure that the domestic violence law is implemented properly and make sure there are shelter homes everywhere. By helping others, it also feels like I am helping myself.”

(Find out more on impact of caste system on women in India here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PV_OL5XMWpE)

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(New Delhi) “We, in Shakti Shalini work on gender-based violence. Anyone, a woman, or a man or even a transgender, can bring their complaints to us. Whenever a case of sexual violence is reported, we are called by the police to counsel the victims, assist them in registering an FIR, take them for a medical examination. We also have to be present when the victims are giving their statement to the magistrate. We are required to do a regular follow-up visits. 

Whenever a woman has to report a case, she has a lot of apprehensions and questions. We explain the entire legal process. We face a lot of challenges from the police as well. Quite often they are rude or they misbehave. For example, there are instances where a minor girl who has eloped from home and married a boy, and now the boy doesn’t want to be with her or if she is pregnant, then police officers say that, “Madam, first she went and slept with the boy and now she is here to register an FIR. A 16-year old girl is not a kid.” The victim feels guilty and as well as harassed. 

Further, the police inform the victims that a medical check-up has to be done. But they don’t specify what will be done in the medical check-up. They also scare them by saying that they are going to use a lot of medical instruments or will use the two-finger test. We respond to victims questions and assure them that they shouldn’t fear the medical examination. Another question that goes on in every girl’s mind is how long will the case go on. Often the police officers respond abruptly, “How do I know?” or “It can be a year or 2 years or 4 years or as many years as it takes”. 

In one case, where a doctor had raped a girl, the doctor was sitting in front of me and the police brought tea and snacks for the doctor and did not arrest him. I asked the cops again and again why they were not arresting him. Next day, when I complained to the Delhi Commission for Women (DCW), the police responded that they went with the team to arrest the doctor but couldn’t find him. Even if you know the truth, you can’t really do anything about it. The survivor’s faith in the police and the judicial system gets shattered and her morale goes down. They call us and say, “Madam, can you please check why they have not made any arrest?  When the police refuses to answer our queries properly, the victims lose faith in us too that we are also unable to do anything.

I am from a small city (Asansol, West Bengal). I always wanted to do a Masters in Social Work (MSW). I never realised that I would learn so much through this course. My first job was based in a rural area of Rajasthan. The attitude of boys in Rajasthan is completely different; they don’t fear police at all. The attitude is that the police is ours and the ministers are ours. One of my colleague tried to hit me. I was really scared as I was in an area which was just 40 kms away from border, and there was only one bus available every 2-3 hours to go to nearest city. I got in touch with my placement coordinator and she told me to leave immediately. If I had stayed and filed a complaint, I probably would have been killed. Once I got away from the village, I started writing to the secretary and the chairperson of the organisation to take action. First, they didn’t take my complaints seriously but when they saw that I was not ready to give up, then they took action. Women should find their inner strength. There may be a lot of things which can draw you back, but you will have to remain strong through it all.” 

(Shakti Shalini is an NGO in New Delhi working on gender-based violence.)

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(New Delhi) “When I had applied for Masters in Social Work, it was still a new course. The course covered all the areas: women’s rights, child rights, health, education and Psychology. This was a challenging but very enjoyable course. I have been counseling survivors of sexual assault, rape and domestic violence for seven years. My first task is to understand what the victim wants, which is determined through pre-counseling. We, at Shakti Shalini, provide a shelter home for security and counseling.

There has been a change in attitude of the police after the Nirbhaya incident. The situation is slightly better now. But sometimes when the complainant goes to the police directly, they refuse to register a complaint. If they make a complaint through Delhi Commission for Women (DCW) or an NGO then the police take the complaint seriously and are even supportive. In cases of rape of minors, the police is helpful and supportive. But they generally try to avoid registering cases involving live-in relationships. 

Sometimes, victims are not comfortable with the police because of their tone. For instance, they ask “tera naam kya hai” (what is your name) and we ask “aap ka naam kya hai” (what is your name). It is the same question but very different way of asking. These are some of the experiences. In cases of minors, we provide support till the case is over. In other cases, we support for as long as they need us. Some of them may already have a lawyer so they may not need a lot of facilitation.

We handle a lot of domestic violence cases too. We provide simple counseling to inform them about their rights, how we handle cases, and how the legal process works. A lot depends on the complainant. There are some complainants who don’t want us to meet their husbands so we stop after a simple facilitation. But if the complainant wants that we should speak to the husband then we have a simple process. We send a notice to the husband. We send at least three notices for them to appear. Then we try to have a telephonic conversations, and if we don’t get a response even over the telephone, we make home visits to ask him to come for a meeting on a certain date. We don’t end the matter after listening to one party. After talking to both parties, the matter may get resolved amicably. Usually, if there is a dispute between family members they try to avoid sitting together. When they are here and in front of each other, they talk and get an opportunity to fix the relationship.

Sometimes we get harassed by the accused but it is part of the job. It has happened to me a couple of times. Once an accused was constantly asking me to stay away from his matter. I told him that if he tried talking to me after 5 pm or tried to attack me, I would lodge a formal complaint against him. After that he backed off. I talk in a respectful manner and the same is expected from others as well. My family is very supportive and understands my work and commitments. 

The job occasionally affect your personal life. When we are alone and evaluate the current situation then sometimes we feel there are only problems in our society. The positive outcomes of our cases help us to restore our faith. As a counselor and as an individual, I have a simple message: whenever we are working with a case, we should not be judgmental. I really like the concept of Shakti Shalini where we work on gender-based violence. We need to work with the problem no matter the gender. We need to keep our approach simple.”  

(Shakti Shalini is an NGO in New Delhi working on gender-based violence.)

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(Agra) “I was attacked in 2002, at the age of 15 years by my sister’s brother-in-law. He had been harassing me for a long time. He said that he wanted to marry me. But when my family and I refused his proposal, he poured acid on my face. I was taken to a local hospital but I couldn’t stay there for long because everyone was scared that he might attack me again. 

The police came to the hospital and took statements from my mother, sister and me. But we never checked if an FIR was filed. Later, when I went to the police station to give my pictures  and check the progress on the case, the police officials were rude and said that they were not “hanuman” to be able to catch the culprit immediately. The culprit lived close to me and roamed around freely. My sister was under a lot of pressure from her in-laws to withdraw the case. They finally managed to get the complaint withdrawn. The police officials did not speak to me or anyone else in my family before closing the case.

I did not get any monetary help from the government because no FIR was registered. But my family, especially my brother supported me through the entire ordeal. My brother sent me to a private hospital at his own expense. Apart from my face, one side of my chest was also burnt in the attack. At the government hospital, doctors would treat my wounds without any kindness. I used to scream in pain but it did not make any difference to them. I couldn’t see the difference between my attacker and the doctors. 

Now, I am married with a four-year old son. My husband does not work and does not support me in any way. I feel I got married to such a person because of my disfigured appearance. I work hard to sustain my child and myself. I like working here; I serve food at Sheroes.”

(Stories of survivors of acid attack: These stories are of women working at Sheroes Hangout, Agra. Sheroes Hangout is a cafe that employs survivors of acid attack and uses the profit to further rehabilitate and educate the survivors. To know more click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zMixPBSlxLw)

 

 

 
(Agra) “I was only three years old when I was attacked by my father. We were three sisters and had no brother. My uncle suggested to my father that if we three sisters died then he can marry for the second time. My one and a half year old sister died instantly in the attack. Now I am 24 years old. I still have to undergo eye treatment as my vision is weak. I am not able to see properly and I recognise people only by their voice.” 
(Stories of survivors of acid attack: These stories are of women working at Sheroes Hangout, Agra. Sheroes Hangout is a cafe that employs survivors of acid attack and uses the profit to further rehabilitate and educate the survivors. To know more click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zMixPBSlxLw)
 
(Agra) “I was attacked in 2012. My parents had a quarrel at their workplace and as a result someone working there attacked me. I took treatment at a government hospital. There is no physical pain anymore.”
(Stories of survivors of acid attack: These stories are of women working at Sheroes Hangout, Agra. Sheroes Hangout is a cafe that employs survivors of acid attack and uses the profit to further rehabilitate and educate the survivors. To know more click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zMixPBSlxLw)